Sex is great, there is no argument there. And while an ORGASM isn't the end all be all for sex, they're pretty great too. Here's the thing though: orgasms are incredibly easy for guys. Pretty much every time they have sex, they are able to have an orgasm. It's a little trickier for women. Not only is it more difficult for them to have an orgasm in any way, having a vaginal orgasm can be more challenging. A vaginal orgasm is defined as a woman reaching orgasm via stimulation specifically to her vagina, usually from a penis. The other ways that women have orgasms are via stimulation to other arts of their bodies, like the clitoris.

Studies show that only 20% of women can easily and regularly have a vaginal orgasm. This is totally normal so if you are one of these women, don't worry! Are you wanting to have a vaginal orgasm? Chances are, it's totally possible! You just need some extra information first. There are some specific spots to learn about, mental blocks to potentially remove, and practice to be had. We go over it in more detail below.

Before we delve into some tips and tricks, it's important to remember that vaginal orgasms are DIFFERENT for every woman. Just like sex in general, there isn't just one way to get a woman to orgasm via vaginal stimulation. It's also important to remember that how we see sex in movies and porn is just acting. There, women always seem to be able to orgasm from straight penetration alone and that is just misleading! Sometimes it can feel frustrating, yes, but please do remember that every body is unique and sometimes you have to try different things with it to find out what works best.

Don't give up too soon. And definitely don't try too hard! Sex is generally supposed to be an ENJOYABLE experience. Yes, we do want to push ourselves out of our comfort zones sometimes, but we also don't want to stress ourselves out by feeling inadequate or like we can't do something.

Vaginal orgasms are awesome, whether you're having sex with a partner or masturbating. You just may have to work a little harder to figure out how to make it happen.

Now, the vagina is a complicated part of a woman's genitals. There are a lot of parts! So it only makes sense that there would be multiple places that when stimulated can feel great and help a woman achieve an orgasm. In general there are three different spots to try to reach.

Vaginal Orgasm From Generic Stimulation From A Penis - This is more rare, of course, but some women are stimulated enough just from having a penis (or a dildo) enter the vagina. The thrusting and stroking sensation along the vaginal wall is enough to provide pleasure. Of course, this is not the norm! In fact, scientific studies have shown that very few women respond to generic stimulation like this.

Vaginal Orgasm From G-Spot Stimulation - Ah, the G-SPOT! We've all heard about it. Generally it's whispered about like a sex myth but guess what: it's real. Not only is it real but it's great to figure out where it is. G Spot stimulation feels absolutely incredible. And hitting it can help a woman achieve an orgasm! The G-Spot is located on the inside of the vagina wall about two inches from the opening. Usually you can tell where it is by the skin feeling a bit different in that area. It's also super sensitive!

Vaginal Orgasm From A-Spot Stimulation - Almost everyone has heard about the G-Spot, but what about the A-SPOT? This is a totally different part of the vagina. It's located in the very far inside, close to the cervix. Some people call it the DEEP SPOT because how how much deeper inside the vagina it is. Hitting it can feel just as great as the G-Spot, and maybe even better!

Knowing the best vaginal spots for stimulation is great but it's not everything. In fact, there can be a lot of stressors and mental blocks in place that make it tricky to achieve an orgasm. We aren't saying there is anything wrong with you - not at all! We are simply saying that there may be some things going on in your brain that are keeping you from having an incredible vaginal orgasm.

Stress Can Block A Vaginal Orgasm - Let's face it: we can be under a lot of pressure to perform when it comes to sex. Movies and porn make vaginal orgasms look super easy and we always want to be perceived as great in bed. This can add on extra stress and make it way harder to achieve that orgasm. The best advice we can give is RELAX and try not to worry so much.

Trying To Force It Can Block A Vaginal Orgasm - You know how sometimes the more you want to orgasm, the harder it is? This is especially true for vaginal orgasms. Thinking about it too much and trying to force your body to orgasm can often have the totally opposite effect. It can be super hard but the best thing to do is just stop focusing on the orgasm specifically and just focus on feeling good.

Past Negative Experiences Can Block An Orgasm - We don't mean this like it's a bad thing, but often women are way more sensitive than men when it comes to sex. Negative experiences can have an impact on how easy it is to achieve an orgasm. That could be from something as simple as past performance anxieties to something more serious as being in an abusive relationship. The only way to get past those is to rebuild your memories with positive and strong sexual experiences.

All of this may make a vaginal orgasm sound like it's not worth it, but we assure you that it totally is! They feel great and are a different kind of orgasm so it's definitely worth it.

You know what they say: practice makes perfect. We recommend practicing on your own a little first. If you are new to vaginal orgasms, it means you might be new to those parts of your body and those rhythms. Take some time to learn your body's needs and wants.

You can use a your fingers or a dildo to find your G-Spot. By figuring out where your own G-Spot is and how best to stimulate it, you can also figure out the best sorts of POSITIONS to try with your partner later on. You'll also be able to practice with what feels good.

Finding your A-Spot on your own is also great practice! However, it can be a bit trickier to hit on your own. You'll definitely need a dildo to help you reach that far in!

Another great thing about practicing on your own is that you can start to build up some comfort and confidence when it comes to vaginal orgasms. However, don't get too used to doing it with yourself. Too much comfort and familiarity with masturbating can sometimes make it more challenging to orgasm with a partner.

After you've built up your comfort zone and confidence on your own, introduce your partner to your practice sessions. They don't need to be serious at all. In fact, you can have some fun with it and give your mission a fun name! We find it's best not to take these things too seriously, after all. Sex is meant to be a fun experience after all!

And there is nothing wrong with practicing sex. It's literally the only way to learn what your body wants and what your partner wants. And by practicing vaginal orgasms with your partner, you can learn what works best for you and what doesn't. You can also get used to feeling arouse from their body with your body.

Take the time to teach your partner about the three different spots: general stimulation, G-Spot, and A-Spot. Chances are they may not know about the last one! You'll already be a little familiar with what feels good to you, so you can now try it out with them. Your partner may also have some great ideas of their own about how to help you achieve your vaginal orgasm.

As important as practice is, make sure you don't over do it! You don't want to over-stimulate or tire yourself out, after all.

There are loads of things to consider in sex when it comes to a vaginal orgasm. All of the factors that make up sex can have a different effect on a vaginal orgasm. This is where practicing can be important. Some things that you'll want to consider are:

Angle and Position - How you hit the G-Spot and A-Spot can feel different. Some angles and positions may feel better than others. And it's also important to consider you and your partner's comfort outside of whether or not it makes your vagina feel good! There are hundreds of positions to try out but we recommend start off with doggy style. That is a great way to hit both the G-Spot and the A-Spot.

How Deep - We've mentioned both the G-Spot and the A-Spot and they are both at completely different depths of the vagina. Often we think that in order to have the best sex, women need to be banged really deep. This is usually because deep penetration can feel great for the penis, but there is little regard for the vagina. While the A-Spot is located further into the vagina, let's not forget about the G-Spot! It's only a few inches in and if you especially love G-Spot stimulation, you definitely don't need super DEEP PENETRATION to achieve an orgasm!

Speed - Along with a deep pounding, there is another myth that super fast sex is the best. This also isn't always the case when it comes to having a great orgasm! Yes, a quickie can always be fun but it isn't the only speed there is. A lot of great vaginal stimulation can from from slow and steady thrust. Most important, it's all about finding the RIGHT rhythm for you and your vagina. It's also important to keep in mind that a steady rhythm can be best for vaginal orgasms. What we mean by that is less stopping and starting!

Rough Or Gentle - Just like you, your vagina will have specific sexual preferences too. It might prefer really rough and hard stimulation and super wild and crazy sex. Or it might prefer super slow, intimate sex. It is important to listen to your body about what sort of feel is right! And yes, it can totally change depending on your mood.

Size - We are strong believers in the fact that penis size isn't the only important thing when it comes to sex. However, size can actually help out when it comes to vaginal sex. A longer penis can more easily hit the A-Spot and a wide penis can help to stimulate the general vagina and G-Spot. However, more important than the size is how you use it. That's why practicing is important!

Just Let The Orgasm Happen

Overall, achieving an orgasm is all about relaxing and just letting it happen. All of the above is great to learn more about sex and your body and how you might best get to that elusive vaginal orgasm. However, ultimately, the best thing you can do is just let it happen. All of the tips and tricks and practice in the world can't help you if you don't simply leave it be. That might sound counterintuitive but we hope it makes sense! Basically what we mean is your body knows what it wants and what feels good so take all of these tools you've been armed with and trust that your body can do the rest!

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